To live a meaningful life of deep connection, learn to listen. Become the love you wish to attract learn how with the book that changed my mindset on love.

Start with the vision of what you want your love to look like. From this you can start to cultivate that loving energy now. You will show up differently, when you show up as a woman who is already loved by a man who knows your value. There is no lack or need you have everything you need inside of you to be that woman. Start showing up in the world as if you are already her. How does she walk into a room?

They don’t always have to be verbalized. It would be exhausting to express to everyone you come into contact on a daily basis what your boundaries are. The most important person who needs to know your boundaries is you.

Know your boundaries. This is harder than It sounds. There are certain boundaries you wont realize until you are faced with a new situation.

Attachment theory is a concept in clinical psychology that attempts to explain human behavior as it relates to relationships. Attachment forms in early childhood largely based on the relationship with your early caretakers. It then shapes how we show up and relate to others in our adult relationships. Based on attachment theory by John Bowlbys work dating back to the 1950s.

Love is not only a feeling it’s action. Love at its essence is a verb. The way you love, doesn’t shape shift depending on the object of your affection. The way you love in all your relationships is the same. If you are a generous lover. You’re friends would likely describe you as amibable and easy going. Your co workers my describe you as understanding while your romantic partner may perceive you as forgiving. The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So if you are waiting for a great romantic partner to turn on your love switch, you’ve go it all wrong.

You’ve probably heard these wise words. You cannot love anyone more than you love yourself. The way in which you love yourself is the same way you extend your love to others. It is impossible to love others if you are incapable of loving yourself. Love starts with self. Affection and attraction for a romantic lover. Loyalty for a best friend or even care for family members is not love. Love is the actions that are used to express those found feelings. What was the last act of love you extended to yourself?

GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME. This great love that you hope for. The journey for anything good and worth having in life is long. Despite what technology driven apps, fad diet infomercials, and marketing campaigns try and make us believe. Look at nature, the robust tree outside started as a single seed small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. That growth took time. A lot more time than we often times want to wait for good things to happen. Millionaire and Founder of Misfits Market Place, an online market place for slightly imperfect produce as reduced prices, shares that he started multiple failed business before this highly profitable one.

This book is more like an instruction manual to help raise your relationship IQ. For all of your relationships not just romantic partnerships. Katherine Thomas does a wonderful job of forcing the reader to dive deep into their own psyche. To realize what role you play in a dysfunctional relationship and most importantly why?