What I learned from James Clear Atomic Habits.

The first step to creating better habits is to change your mindset. You have to decide to become the person who does the habit. Say you want to create a new habit of running regularly. Start by deciding you are a runner. Think “fake it until you make it”. It sounds clique but there is some truth. Once you decide you are a runner you then have to convince your subconscious mind it is true. How? Start running. Every time you go for a run you are making a case for your new reality. I am a runner. See, I’m running. Eventually your subconscious mind will catch up to this new habit and you will no longer have to fake it. You and everyone around you will confirm that you are in fact a runner.

Start with the vision of what you want your love to look like. From this you can start to cultivate that loving energy now. You will show up differently, when you show up as a woman who is already loved by a man who knows your value. There is no lack or need you have everything you need inside of you to be that woman. Start showing up in the world as if you are already her. How does she walk into a room?

You’ve probably heard these wise words. You cannot love anyone more than you love yourself. The way in which you love yourself is the same way you extend your love to others. It is impossible to love others if you are incapable of loving yourself. Love starts with self. Affection and attraction for a romantic lover. Loyalty for a best friend or even care for family members is not love. Love is the actions that are used to express those found feelings. What was the last act of love you extended to yourself?

GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME. This great love that you hope for. The journey for anything good and worth having in life is long. Despite what technology driven apps, fad diet infomercials, and marketing campaigns try and make us believe. Look at nature, the robust tree outside started as a single seed small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. That growth took time. A lot more time than we often times want to wait for good things to happen. Millionaire and Founder of Misfits Market Place, an online market place for slightly imperfect produce as reduced prices, shares that he started multiple failed business before this highly profitable one.