To live a meaningful life of deep connection, learn to listen. Become the love you wish to attract learn how with the book that changed my mindset on love.

Attachment theory is a concept in clinical psychology that attempts to explain human behavior as it relates to relationships. Attachment forms in early childhood largely based on the relationship with your early caretakers. It then shapes how we show up and relate to others in our adult relationships. Based on attachment theory by John Bowlbys work dating back to the 1950s.

Love is not only a feeling it’s action. Love at its essence is a verb. The way you love, doesn’t shape shift depending on the object of your affection. The way you love in all your relationships is the same. If you are a generous lover. You’re friends would likely describe you as amibable and easy going. Your co workers my describe you as understanding while your romantic partner may perceive you as forgiving. The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So if you are waiting for a great romantic partner to turn on your love switch, you’ve go it all wrong.

GOOD THINGS TAKE TIME. This great love that you hope for. The journey for anything good and worth having in life is long. Despite what technology driven apps, fad diet infomercials, and marketing campaigns try and make us believe. Look at nature, the robust tree outside started as a single seed small enough to fit in the palm of your hand. That growth took time. A lot more time than we often times want to wait for good things to happen. Millionaire and Founder of Misfits Market Place, an online market place for slightly imperfect produce as reduced prices, shares that he started multiple failed business before this highly profitable one.